Fear of failure (which was my biggie), self hatred, self doubt(this too), insecurity, unworthiness etc, all come from identifying with this body and its traits. This body/personality likes to set goals that only have to do with IT. Slimmer/hotter bod, great partner to make me feel better or not alone, more money, traveling to feel free etc..... all of these goals are to keep this body identification in tact. They are really meant to deter you from what you REALLY want, and have you focused on false goals, which you ultimately never reach and often actively destroy.
I have learned that my TRUE goal is one that brings me joy. Its creative, its helpful to others and myself, I am passionate about it and it allows me to serve the world. Everything that makes me happy is tied up in the One Goal.
I learned what this goal is, through letting go of everything that is not this goal!!! With trust, forgiveness and willingness I slowly learned that my goal extends from Knowing my True Self.
Once I accepted that I am a SOUL, I let go of all physical maintenance goals; and my true function, my true purpose was given me within. Now my goal is happiness for me and for all the world and it has been made practical through creative endeavors that I can give to others. Now that I have happiness, I can give it. From this one goal, I have lost all the weight I formerly had, have the perfect husband and family and my life is a joyful incredible ride....with out even trying. It became natural when I re-aligned my mind with what is TRUE IN ME.
I know this is possible for us all... because in Truth, we are all the same. We are not these bodies and its petty goals... we extend from the very Source of Life itself and are capable of limitless creative things! Let your goal be set for you, and let go of everything that stands in its way of emerging within you. We are all powerful beyond measure, and we can embrace it... when all goals become One.