"Let me know this brother as myself" ~ACIM T5. Healing & Wholeness
Its not until we are honest and allow our minds to be stripped of what stories we are telling ourselves about the other and our self, that we can truly change our MINDS about what we WANT to give them and how we WANT to see them. When we change our minds about how we see another that IS how we change what we give them. Giving first happens in mind, in vision and then in form. What I give to another I WILL be giving to myself. There is no way to get around this universal law; for in Truth we are ONE and there is no way to succeed and thrive in this world to the exclusion of another.
To give to another IS to receive, for we are the SAME as another, not separate or different. If we do not give to others, or give only to some and not everyone equally, then we are operating from the state of mind of LACK and SEPARATION. If we perceive we do not have enough or that another has different needs than we do, then we will experience that we do not have enough and never fully learn that another shares the SAME needs as us. This is self sabotage, perceiving different interests, and we do it unto ourselves when we think that another is different than us, has a different healer/teacher than us, or is different from us in ANY way. Difference is ONLY of this world and NOT of God, and if it is not of God is it NOT real.
We are abundant in God, free in Him, loved in Him, safe in Him, provided for completely and entirely in Him. Yet the only way we will know this is true, is through personal EXPERIENCE that this is true. The only way to personally experience it, is to GIVE it to all people around the world and see every one as wholly and equally worthy of love and of the gifts you can give. Its selfless giving, where you will receive everything! And this is not just giving things of form (though not excluding this) but its giving of your soul, giving of your love and most importantly giving of VISION. How do I see and know the other and how I see and know my self? If we, according to God, are NOT these poor, sick, anger filled, mistake ridden bodies.....then who are we? What do I choose to see as TRUE in my brother and myself??
We must begin to become inquisitive in ALL our relationships, and it often starts in our relationships that surround us initially and then our learning will extend outwards from there. There are 2 ways of SEEING in relationships and what ever we choose to see and believe we WILL experience. One extends from the perspective that "I am separate" one extends from the perspective "I am united with all that is". Only one is true, the other is completely made up based on the past. The one that is True has all the power of the Universe joined with it. This is how purpose, peace and complete fulfillment in all areas of life and relationships is guaranteed, by choosing the Truth, in your own mind, that we are JOINED. We are not alone..... and in our unity is where our healing and happiness IS. Let your mind be open to the EXPERIENCE of this idea, and you will KNOW that it is True for yourself.
This cannot be told to you from a book, or me, or another, but it can only be seen in the light of your inner minds eye. So it begins by realizing we need to change something in our life/relationships because you are not wholly happy and to become OPEN to that change in how you SEE. When you change how you SEE the other, you will be OFFERING a different gift and thus RECEIVE a different gift. Vision is indeed a GIFT!
How to allow this change of Mind to take place?
In A Course in Miracles we are taught that we have an internal teacher called the Holy Spirit. The Holy Spirit's function is to heal and cleanse our minds of ALL errors. To restore our minds to RIGHT perspective, so that we can look out with clarity on another and not make their mistakes into who they are. When we no longer keep another prisoner to their mistakes, we WILL be freed of our own. This is the holy spirits function in our minds, and either we choose to listen to this teacher and let our minds be changed about ourselves, and everyone.... or we continue to listen to the ego and struggle in all our relationships and life events. The Holy Spirit is the SAME mind and SANE mind in us all. When we choose to listen to and welcome Holy Spirit into our relationships HE IS THERE, and he will teach us how to see and teach us to understand everything and everyone PERFECTLY. He is the translator of all that is, and he translates every message into the SAME message for us all so we can all understand each other, heal with each other and love each other.
Questions to ask and contemplate within:
What do I VALUE in my relationships?
What are my relationships FOR?
What am I GETTING out of this relationship?
What am I GIVING in my relationship?
What do I WANT to give instead of what I am giving now?
How do I SEE the other?
How do I SEE myself?
What is the current PURPOSE I have for my relationships?
What is the NEW purpose I want to have for my relationships?
What do I really really really want?
These questions are questions the Holy Spirit would answer for us. We can ask these questions and become still within and listen, and the answer will be revealed to us in a way that makes perfect sense. This can be a practice in hearing the holy spirit and beginning to trust His voice and guidance within us. Ask each question of itself alone, and demand an answer. You are wholly worthy of an answer because of what you are. When you get an answer to one of these questions, you will for ALL of them and be freed and healed of your current difficulties. Take your time to listen for the response.
The way to begin to heal, is to begin to trust. We trust by realizing that there MUST be another way and an ANSWER to our perceived problems, even if we don't know what that might be yet. If you become open to learning to see what the problem is and where the problem is, you will also learn where the solution is and what the solution is. So this whole process MUST begin with inner inquiry and giving our mind and relationships over to the holy spirit to help us out. All holy spirit needs from us is willingness to learn anew.......... for the holy spirit will show you both the problem AND the solution side by side so you can CHOOSE which one is true for you.
There is no gimmick this world can offer, no worldly therapist or counselor that can bring us to the inner experience of our UNITY. It is only a complete surrender of control and opening to our Teacher Within, that will then give to us and offer us the gift of VISION and HEALING in our relationships. This healed vision enables us to look upon another as the SAME, to look upon the world through eyes of hope and promise, where we are truly HAPPY and where we ALL can win. Ask for ONLY this vision and it MUST be given you.
There is not a single prayer or call of the heart that goes unanswered. There is nothing, but your own thinking, that interferes with your perfect happiness. And not only is this answer and happiness what YOU really want, but our creator God wants this for you/us as well.
You have help, all you need do is ask for it. Be still, listen and accept it when it comes.
"Your Father Wills you to know your brother as your Self." ~ACIM T 11.2
"This holy relationship, lovely in its innocence, mighty in strength, and blazing with a light far brighter than the sun which lights the sky you see, is chosen of your Father as a means for His Own plan. Be thankful that it serves yours not at all. Nothing entrusted to it can be misused, and nothing given it but will be used. This holy relationship has the power to heal all pain, regardless of its form. Neither of you alone can serve at all. Only in your joint will does healing lie. For here YOUR healing is, and here will you accept Atonement. And in your healing is the Sonship healed BECAUSE your wills are joined. " ~ ACIM 22.6